Those who are rejection sensitive notice very small slights and interpret them in the worst way. Rejection sensitive people either need to constantly present themselves in a positive light to earn the approval of others or the complete opposite . . .they withdraw socially so they can remove the risk of rejection. Rejection sensitive people might also be be fear based perfectionists – their fear is that of somehow being rejected for not getting everything right. Life is better without so much worry about rejection – learn more about this topic, attachment theory and how to get relief from expert guest Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps.
Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps, psychologist, has authored Bouncing Back from Rejection and Insecure in Love. She also shares her expertise through YouTube and the blog Making Change in Psychology Today. To learn more about Dr. Becker-Phelps and for free resources she offers, visit www.drbecker-phelps.com.
Note: Chris Fraley’s survey, mentioned in this episode, can be found at: http://drbecker-phelps.com/home/insecure-in-love-resources
Please enjoy the following poem by Rumi which was read on this show:
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
This episode is dedicated to the nonprofit group internationalforgiveness.com where you can learn about how forgiveness is not for the person you’re forgiving, it’s for you, and how the burden of resentment causes fatigue.