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Forgiveness Series 2: What are the Benefits of Forgiveness? (What’s in it for the Forgiver?)

I'm excited to share the second of a 17 part series of super brief podcasts on the topic of forgiveness.  In each show, I will ask just one question of Dr. Robert Enright, PhD, internationally renowned expert on the science and psychology of forgiveness.   

The following brief episode answers the question:   What are the benefits of forgiveness?  (What’s in it for the person forgiving?)  

Stay tuned for the third question, which answer the question:  What are the two paradoxes of forgiveness?  

Dr. Robert Enright is the 2022 recipient of the Gold Medal Award for Impact in Psychology by the American Psychological Foundation.  As the founder of the scientific study of forgiveness, Dr. Enright has authored seven books and over 100 publications on the topic and related topics, including studies on cross-cultural interpersonal forgiveness.   Dr. Enright developed an early intervention to promote a model of forgiveness that can be self-taught or used in therapeutic settings.  Dr. Enright is a professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.   To learn more about forgiveness and Dr. Robert Enright, visit internationalforgiveness.com.    

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Forgiveness Series 1: What is the Definition of Forgiveness?

Is there someone from your life that you need to forgive? The following super brief episode is one of a  17 part series on the topic of forgivenessIn each show, Dr. Alexandra asks just one new question of Dr. Robert Enright, PhD, internationally renowned expert on the science and psychology of forgiveness.  

The following brief (five minute) episode answers the question:  What is the definition of forgiveness?   

Stay tuned for the next brief episode, which answers:  What are the benefits of forgiveness?  (What’s in it for the person forgiving?)  

Dr. Robert Enright is the 2022 recipient of the Gold Medal Award for Impact in Psychology by the American Psychological Foundation.  As the founder of the scientific study of forgiveness, Dr. Enright has authored seven books and over 100 publications on the topic and related topics, including studies on cross-cultural interpersonal forgiveness.   Dr. Enright developed an early intervention to promote a model of forgiveness that can be self-taught or used in therapeutic settings.  Dr. Enright is a professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.   To learn more about forgiveness and Dr. Robert Enright, visit internationalforgiveness.com.    

Would you like to be sent an article on how to forgive when someone has been unfaithful? E-mail dralexandra@psychologyamerica.com and in the subject line write “forgiveness article.”   

Support the show

This show was created with love on my volunteer time. One small gift you can give me back is to take the time to leave the show a comment and rating on iTunes. You can also support the production costs of the show by buying me a $3 coffee at buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra. I will be encouraged by your support, and thank you!

Intuition with Dr. Paul Coleman

I **really** enjoyed my conversation with Dr. Paul Coleman on the topic of intuition.    Some of the studies he shared are fascinating!  Our conversation went from psychology to quantum physics to the esoteric concept of the future affecting the past. 

Paul Coleman is a psychologist in private practice specializing in intuition development, rebuilding relationships, grief, anxiety and trauma.  I had a chance to meet Dr. Coleman after I heard him give a beautiful talk at the International Forgiveness Institute’s 2022 Agape Love conference.  Dr. Coleman, the author of Finding Peace When Your Heart is in Pieces, has appeared on national television, including Today, and Fox’s The Morning Show.    

Dr. Coleman will be a delight to “spend time with” through this show.  May you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! 

Support the show

This show was created with love on my volunteer time. One small gift you can give me back is to take the time to leave the show a comment and rating on iTunes. You can also support the production costs of this show through buying me a coffee for $3 on buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra

Rejection Sensitivity with Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps

Those who are rejection sensitive notice very small slights and interpret them in the worst way.  Rejection sensitive people either need to constantly present themselves in a positive light to earn the approval of others or the complete opposite . . .they withdraw socially so they can remove the risk of rejection.  Rejection sensitive people might also be be fear based perfectionists – their fear is that of somehow being rejected for not getting everything right.  Life is better without so much worry about rejection – learn more about this topic, attachment theory and how to get relief from expert guest Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps.  

Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps, psychologist, has authored Bouncing Back from Rejection and Insecure in Love.  She also shares her expertise through YouTube and the blog Making Change in Psychology Today. To learn more about Dr. Becker-Phelps and for free resources she offers, visit www.drbecker-phelps.com.

 Note:  Chris Fraley’s survey, mentioned in this episode, can be found at:  http://drbecker-phelps.com/home/insecure-in-love-resources

Please enjoy the following poem by Rumi which was read on this show:  

The Guest House 

This being human is a guest house.
 Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
 some momentary awareness comes
 as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
 Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
 who violently sweep your house
 empty of its furniture,
 still, treat each guest honorably.
 He may be clearing you out
 for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
 meet them at the door laughing,
 and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
 because each has been sent
 as a guide from beyond.

This episode is dedicated to the nonprofit group internationalforgiveness.com  where you can learn about how forgiveness is not for the person you’re forgiving, it’s for you, and how the burden of resentment causes fatigue.

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Beth Rom-Rymer on Rabbi Hillel, How to get Big Things Done and the Robber’s Cave Experiment

Beth Rom-Rymer, PhD is the Chair and President of the Board of Directors of the National Register of Health Service Psychologists, the co-founder and co-chair of the International Movement for Prescriptive Authority (a movement supporting psychologists ability to prescribe medications) and at the time of this recording, a current candidate for the presidency of the American Psychological Association (APA).  Through her leadership and her ability to bring together multiple groups, Dr. Rom-Rymer has greatly increased access to mental health care in the United States.    I hope you will enjoy learning from her as much as I did through this interview!  

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Four Practices to Chill Out when Anxiety Creeps In

This is a “bonus” short form episode offers practical skills that you can apply today so that you can focus less on anxiety and more on the things that matter most.  

Guest Hillary Grennan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in working with clients struggling with anxiety, depression and trauma.  She has over ten years of clinical experience working with young children, adolescents, adults, and families.  As a Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP) with a certificate in Intensive Cognitive Therapy, Hillary’s theoretical approach is rooted in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Recently she completed the ACT Immersion course taught by Dr.Steven Hayes.  Hillary guides her clients on how to utilize their strengths and inner resilience to overcome the challenges of life with compassion, creativity and empowerment.

This episode is dedicated to InternationalForgiveness.com

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